GAMES FOR NARCISSISTIC COUPLES – GAME 1: CINDERELLA (PART 3)
April 9th, 2009As they are making love, he says to her, in exactly these words:
“Yes, I am a prince and I’m making love to you.” And she says:
“Yes, I am a princess and I’m making love to you.” And he says:
“I must be great if I’m making love to a princess.” And she says:
“I must be great if I’m making love to a prince.”
They should repeat these and similar phrases during the course of the lovemaking. It will serve to emphasize their narcissistic feelings about one another while pointing to the lack of more genuine feelings. Naturally, this part of the game is rather less fun and more confrontational. Couples may well want to resist saying these things, viewing them as spoiling the fun or interfering with the flow of the story. But it is important to work through any resistance and express themselves. They can do so by discussing feelings of resistance as they come up. After the lovemaking they should talk about what other thoughts or feelings or memories they had while playing the game—and particularly while saying their designated lines as they were making love. A number of surprising feelings and memories will emerge that had formerly lain in the unconscious.
The game can also be reversed, with the husband playing Cinderfella, and the wife playing a princess looking for her mate.
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